Wake up in the morning, feel guilty. Get ready for your day, feel guilty. Eat breakfast, feel guilty. Go to work, feel guilty. Eat lunch, feel guilty. Keep working, feel- I think you know where I’m going with this. It’s like you’re eating to feed your guilt, waking up to feel remorse, living to regret. It’s hard to get rid of this feeling that drains you.
For the past 6 months I have been experiencing immense guilt because of some decisions I have made in the past. There is not one day that has gone by where I have not felt guilty. I continue to ask the same question everyday: How do I stop feeling this way? Well I can say that I have figured out how to answer that question…somewhat.
The truth is I’m still unable to figure out how to stop experiencing guilt. You can’t just wish away remorse. But I have found that telling yourself that it is a learning experience, and that everyone messes up in life is very helpful. I’m not perfect, you’re not perfect, we all make mistakes, that doesn’t mean we should just give up on ourselves. It’s a chance to fix ourselves. It’s not the end. Instead of looking back on your mistakes, look at your future and how you can avoid doing the same thing again.
The key attribute to the diminishing of guilt is time. It won’t be easy to get through. Everyday you’ll have to reassure yourself that things are going to be okay. Over time, you will start to feel guilt less and less. It could take weeks, months, years (I know that’s not very uplifting but it’s true). Although it may take a long time, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have found that my guilt has diminished quite a bit in the past month. It still knocks on my door everyday, but I think about it less on a daily basis. You will get through this.
Guilt is not your friend but it isn’t your enemy either. Through guilt we are taught how to do the right thing. We have to make mistakes in order to fix ourselves. This is not the end for you or me. Your mistakes can’t be the focus of your life. We will get through this, but to do that we have to stay strong. Don’t give up on yourself, work to make yourself a better person.